Men (and Women) Who Can’t Love

Desire is not synonymous with love.  I know that now.  But once upon a time I confused the two.  And if a man chased me hard enough–wanted me badly enough–it had to be because he loved me.  I wasn’t wise or mature enough to consider the other factors that may influence a man’s desire of…

The Great Wall of Anger

I sat in my therapist’s office feeling defeated; tears were welling up in my eyes.  In a stern voice he says, “Come on; don’t dissolve into tears!  Let it out.”  He motioned towards an empty chair.  He wanted me to pretend a certain person was sitting in it, and to yell and scream at the…

I Remember When I Learned To Hate My Body

I was 11 years old.  My brother and I were visiting family members in Puerto Rico for the summer.  I was so excited to spend time with my grandparents, who I hadn’t seen in years.  They lovingly greeted us at baggage claim and escorted us to their car. My hair was curly and cut very…

The Beauty of the Whole

I’ve been doing a lot of reading lately, and of the different subjects I am studying, the topic of compassion and acceptance have been the most powerful. Yes, exercising compassion and acceptance towards others is ideal, but the real challenge is exercising compassion and acceptance towards ourselves. I relate this to many of us who…