Last Friday (Good Friday in the U.S.), I had the privilege of marrying a man whose presence has really deepened my understanding of what it means to love myself. That might not have been the sentence you were expecting. You might have expected me to talk about how amazing he is, how he's my soul… Continue reading Love & Marriage: A deeper commitment to loving myself.
No longer squeezing water from dry sponges and crying about being thirsty.
People reject the unfamiliar even if it’s good for them.
In my journey of personal transformation, I've learned the things we desire most, like wealth, love, and happiness, don't happen by accident, but by consistently practicing thoughts and habits that align with those states of being. Many of us are waiting for circumstances to change on their own so that we can feel better; as a… Continue reading Choose Love. Choose Joy.
What is Love? Love: a loaded word with extremely subjective meaning. Some of us see the word and feel inspired, while others of us are triggered by memories of disappointment, abandonment, or an extreme sense of longing. Love, despite its subjectivity, is a universal concept. People all over the world are reaching for alignment with it… Continue reading 3 Signs You Aren’t Loving Yourself
All relationships require courage and have some element of risk-taking, and this idea of “readiness” is a false ideal that no one ever lives up to.
You didn't hurt me. The hurt parts of me were attracted to you. You grated your emotional unavailability against old wounds and tore their scabs away. I bled out; I had to let the poison of my past all the way out. The hurt parts of me loved you. The wounded parts of me thought you were the one. The healed me knows better.
On the first date with an ex, he told me he was confused about monogamy. His stance was very wishy washy. One moment he thought it wasn't natural or possible. The next moment, he said he felt he needed to work through that confusion in therapy in order to have a meaningful relationship. He said… Continue reading Red Flags & Mind Games
Some people like to hide their emotional abuse or vampirism as "Sensitivity." Narcissists and psychopaths are especially good at mimicking emotions like sadness in order to get their way. Here's how you can tell if someone is just sensitive, or if someone is actually attempting to manipulate, control, or abuse you emotionally:
Why did I leave Facebook for a while? Why did I break from Social Media (or social mediocrity as I call it now...haha)? What did I do during that time? What did I learn? I traveled and saw parts of the world I never thought I'd see. I read books and expanded my breadth of… Continue reading When a Flower Blooms in a Dark Room…